Build Your Part of the Wall…Not Someone Else’s
What does success look like to you? I can honestly say that I do not have the answer to that question? One of my goals as a coach is to be totally transparent and share my struggles in the hopes that they will inspire someone else. And a struggle I have been dealing with recently is defining what success looks like in my life. And to go a little deeper – in not comparing my success to that of others.
It is so easy to get caught up in this world that is constantly throwing stats at you! Whether it’s achieving the perfect grades in school, the right size jeans, the ideal number of children, a certain amount in your bank account. Standards and expectations are everywhere! And when we get so caught up in trying to measure up that we lose focus of God’s plans for our life, it becomes a problem!
Comparison is such an ugly problem for most women. We compare our bodies, our clothes, our homes, our children, our husbands! And as women of faith, we are guilty of comparing that as well! We are always looking to the left or the right.
Coaching is something I believe God is using to help me realize that I am SO incredibly guilty of comparing myself to others. And I realize that it’s not something that just started. I’ve done it my entire life!
And it’s not healthy. Because the thing is, that I am comparing my known insecurities to what I see on the outside of everyone else! And that is not reality!
IF there is one thing I have learned since becoming a coach, it is that God has a plan for me. It may not look like what I thought it would, but if I let go and allow Him to direct my steps, He most certainly will. I can see such a huge difference in the days that I pray and ask for direction and the days that I go it alone! I am different when I seek God’s guidance instead of my own.
So that is something I am working toward. Everyday waking up and asking God to show me where to step. Who to lift up. What to say to the person He wants me to help that day. How to breathe light and life into my family through my words and actions.
I posted recently about unplugging from technology in my bedroom at night. Can I tell you what removing my phone from my nightstand has done for me????
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- Instead of waking up and automatically reaching for it in the middle of the night to see if I have any messages, I pray for someone that is on my heart.
- Instead of scrolling through Facebook for 15-20 minutes, checking out everyone else’s life, I am spending time in my own! With my husband or investing in myself with professional development and Bible study.
- God is changing my focus to be on prayer and meditation over my family, my challengers, and my coaches.
Technology is wonderful, and I am so thankful for how I am able to utilize it as a coach and in my teaching profession. But I do not want it to captivate me so that I am neglecting my relationship with Christ or with my family.
And those people that helped build the wall??? They built it right where they were. They each took a section that was right in front of them and got to work! They didn’t look to see how Suzie was building or what kind of tools she used. Or to see how far along Sally had gotten before they got started. They looked straight ahead and answered the call and made a different in their world!
- It may be success in just encouraging someone else to get off the couch today.
- It may be success in building financial security for my family.
- It may be success in helping a challenger or another coach realize their self worth today.
